There are a number of effective techniques, and A: A: Dear Deanna,

The good news is that you enjoy what you do—something many workers can’t claim and yet which may be the key to overall job satisfaction. I understand how bothersome it can be when you and a coworker don’t get along, but here are some tips that can help you develop a better relationship. 

• First, you’ve probably identified what you don’t like about this person, but have you looked for their positive qualities? By shifting your focus to the good things about them you may learn to respect them more.


• Second, pump up the volume when it comes to kindness. Sometimes the happier and more pleasant you are, the harder it is for a person to be negative or unpleasant to you. 


• Third, if these approaches just aren’t working, try minimizing your interaction. For example, use emails to avoid face-to-face discussions. As a last resort, you can always ask to be reassigned to another area or team.

Most importantly, remain positive! An upbeat attitude is appreciated by everyone around you, and will help keep you focused on the things you love about your job.

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