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Glad A: Dear Nicki: You are not alone! “The season of giving” often sparks a wave of workplace anxiety. The queen of etiquette herself—Emily Post—suggests it is not necessary to give your boss a gift for the holidays, saying: “Generally, no. It could easily be perceived as trying to win favor. However, a pooled gift from you and other employees that isn’t too expensive or personal is fine.”

While this is sage advice, some workers already have a tradition of giving their boss an individual gift, or work in a small office where pooling is not an option. In these cases, keep your gift simple but professional—now is not the time to purchase boxers or perfume. Instead, fruit, candies, coffees or food baskets are always safe bets, as are work-related gifts such as a nice pen, business card holder or portfolio. And you can’t go wrong with an easy-to-use gift certificate to a local department store, movie theater, bookseller or restaurant.

In terms of cost, don’t go overboard. A good rule of thumb is to keep your purchase well under $25. Remember that it truly is the thought that counts—not what you spend. Happy holidays!

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